The first thing I am going to say is don’t become a bully
yourself! I am also going to tell you
not to do the things that I did, I did not attack my bullies head on but in a
round about way that may have traumatized them in a different way. I guess I became
the bully that day. To be fair though,
there are different types of bullies.
There is the damaged bully, you know the guy from The Breakfast Club. That is the guy that needs to inflict pain
because he wants the world to mirror what he’s going thru. There is also the “Alpha.” Hes not really an alpha but hes taking what
he sees to be the path of least resistance to obtaining dominance. The sum it
up tho they are both dicks and here are my top 5 ways to deal with them.
#5- Avoid them
This goes without saying and if you’re dealing with a bully
its something you’ve already tried. This
may not be the easiest thing but it is much easier that getting punched in the
face or humiliated on a daily basis.
Some people may think this is the cowards way out but life isn’t the
Roman Colosseum. It is also strategic because simple people get bored of not
constantly stimulated so if they don’t have you they’ll find someone else. I’ve tried this one and I can say its
effective, the only problem with it is that it is not permanent. They always find their way back, even if it isn’t
the same guy its another guy, but the same guy.
#4- Talk
Admittedly this doesn’t work that often. Sometimes tho, the bully is just in pain and
is dealing with it the only way he knows how.
I know life isn’t an after school special but a lot of times bullies end
up becoming friends with the people they bully.
Weird. So, just because a person
is being a dick doesn’t mean he’s doing it for fun. Treat them like people even
tho they don’t deserve it.
#3- Stand up
This is when you’re starting to run out of options. Most of the time a bully is like a cat just
looking for a weak mouse to pounce on.
Most bullies like to feel superior and are looking for the path of least
resistance. Nobody wants trouble all the time and that’s what they will get if
you stand up to a bully everytime they pick on you. Doesn’t always work but it
willy usually do the trick. There used to be a guy that would try to pick on me
and every time I would just get in his face and ask him to hit me. Not always
the best idea and it didn’t make him go away but he did it less and less until
he finally stopped.
#2- Fight (I do not recommend this one)
Sometimes there is no other choice. Sometimes another person will cause you so
much grief that you have no other choice but to put on your big boy pants and
throw down. Usually a person is picking
on you because they are bigger than you so fighting isn’t the smartest choice
but it could be necessary, when you show you’re not afraid of a bully you take
away their power. But since they are bigger than you you have to be willing to
take the beating of a lifetime, it may not happen but you gotta be ready.
#1- Be Creative (I do not recommend this one)
Now, this one is my favorite one that’s why its number
one. I do not recommend this one but it’s a lot of fun. This one is where you be creative to deal
with your bully problem. Not sure what that means huh? Well how about some
examples. When I was in jr high, there
was this kid much smaller than me but 1000 times meaner. He would make fun of me, constantly talking
crap. One day I finally had enough and decided to do something but I’m a
peaceful person, I don’t like fighting. So it was time to be creative. I decided to look over his shoulder over the
course of a week and get his locker combination. So when I got it me and a friend of mine went
to his locker when the halls were empty and opened it. What did I have planned
you might ask? Nothing. I had nothing planned, so I improvised. I pulled out his sack lunch threw it on the
floor and my friend and I stomped on it and threw it back into his locker. Lame
huh? I kinda thought so until juice started leaking from the bottom of his
locker. It turned out we busted his juice box and he had to pay for all of his
school textbooks. But wait theres more. Me and my bully ran in the same circles
so this day I ended up having to sit at his table during lunch and watch him
eat the lunch that me and my friend had so happily smashed. It was one of the
saddest things I ever saw. He found out it was me and never messed with me
again.
